I get a lot of people asking about repressed emotions, so here are a few ways to deal with them.
Step one: Acknowledge that you're feeling that emotion.
Be honest with yourself. Let’s use anger as an example. What does anger feel like in your body? What happens in your body? Does it get tight? Where? What happens to your posture, your breath, your muscles, and your facial expressions? Where does your mind go? To let go of repressed emotions like anger, you have to feel them.
Step two: Allow yourself to go into it and fully feel it.
Just be freaking mad. Scream, punch pillows, collapse onto the floor and pound your fists into it (side note: don't hurt yourself). It's so important to feel your repressed emotions. Emotions are energy in motion, and when they get stuck in your body they don't have anywhere else to go, so they'll eat away at you. They’ll cause stress, they'll cause you to lash out at the outside world, they’ll cause disease (which is a dis-ease), and they’ll subconsciously drive your life and seep into your manifesting.
Only 5% of your day you're consciously in control of your mind. The other 95% is driven by your subconscious programming.
If you don’t release your repressed emotions and do the work to heal and get rid of old limiting beliefs and programs, then you are sabotaging yourself 95% of the day.
Emotions are layered, and oftentimes anger will be covering up something like sadness. Don't be surprised when, as you're feeling your repressed anger, suddenly that anger turns into sadness. You might be screaming and swearing one minute and then collapse into a puddle of tears on the floor the next moment. Once the anger fades, that means that you've released it and you don't have to carry it around with you anymore.
When you feel like you've exhausted all of those underlying emotions, and they've peeled away like layers of an onion, then it's time to dig in and do some work and ask yourself, what am I angry about? It's a good rule to ask why. Why are you angry? Maybe the answer is someone said something rude. If that’s the case then ask yourself why that upset you. Keep going with these why questions until you've uncovered the root cause. Maybe the underlying root cause is you were trying to control a situation that you have no control over. A lot of times when we feel angry, we're out of control. People won't bend to our will and it makes us feel angry and frustrated.
And then finally, ask yourself, what is this situation trying to teach me? What am I learning here? It could be that you can't control everything - and what a great lesson that is!
Next, you have to look into your beliefs. You have to get yourself into a high vibrational state, not a reactive volatile state, when you process your beliefs. Stand up and jump up and down and allow your body to get big and throw your arms wide open and lift through your sternum and force yourself to laugh and to smile, and let out a woohoo, it will completely change your energy. Try it right now - it feels so good! Then once you're in that peak state, ask yourself. How should I best look at the situation? Should I continue the way I have before, where I'm a victim? - Where I feel wronged? Where I don't understand? Where I believe I was being deprived? Where the world was out to get me? OR is there something else you can do to ask yourself, Is my old story helping me? Is it helping me learn and grow into an even more evolved soul? And if the answer is no, then change your mind and create something that does help you create a new set of beliefs around it.
Maybe you tell yourself that was a long time ago and doesn't matter or it’s not relevant and those people aren't even in your life anymore. Fear and anger are illusions. They are part of this construct, this Earth school. You can create your reality. You are a different person now. Do you need to think about all that stuff that happened years ago and make decisions from a place of anger and fear? Take away that anger, that story, and then replace it with something else.
Try journaling on everything you learned from the situation you were angry about. And it might not be a big life-altering revelation every time. Maybe it's just that you learned how you don't want to treat other people. And sometimes the lesson doesn't really come until years later. But we can try to take some learnings from it at the moment.
Have you ever gone through something horrible, and then years later you would never want to go through that thing again, but you're grateful that it happened because it turned you into a new person - the person that you are now? You wouldn't be who you were now without having gone through.
You grew so much from it, it put you on a different trajectory. A lot of times the universe is redirecting us and protecting us when we go through challenges. Perhaps you weren't on the path you were meant to go on and maybe those people involved had served their purpose in your life and couldn't follow you further down your path in your journey.
Go to what you learned from that higher vibrational state. And when you see the lesson and change your mind you actually switch timelines and this is called quantum jumping. This isn’t just woo-woo, this is science backed. There are always different timelines going on, and there are millions of versions of you existing across timelines on this planet in parallel lives.
Every time you make a new choice, a new timeline branches out and a parallel timeline is started where the other version of you makes the other choice. One version of you chose the choice you did, and another version of you chose another choice. Soon each of those timelines split off into two more branches the next time those versions of you have to make a choice, and so on and so on. There are practically an infinite number of timelines starring you right now as the lead actor. Some of the timelines are incredibly similar to the one you're consciously living, and some of them are vastly different.
Quantum physics explains this well. The many worlds interpretation of quantum physics says some many parallel worlds and universes exist at the same time and in the same space as our own, and that all possible outcomes are physically realized in these other worlds. Electrons (matter) are waves, but they appear to us as particles once we measure and observe them. Quantum physics tells us that before we measured those electrons, they existed on a wave function (you can think of it like a cloud or a realm of possibilities) and they could be at any possible place within that cloud. Once we measure or observe the electron, that wave function collapses and we see the electron as a particle in one point in time and space only. The many worlds interpretation says that all of those other possibilities of where the electron could be within the cloud each exist in a different world from our own in a parallel reality.
Because you have healed from that anger and you let go, you jump into another timeline where you're no longer angry and no longer the victim, and you've put yourself onto another trajectory. If you hadn’t gotten the lesson, you wouldn't have this new mindset that allows you to shift and turn in a new direction. And now that you have the power of that lesson and you're on a new timeline, you get new opportunities available to you and you'll be able to handle those next situations that get thrown your way because of the learning that you just achieved. When you adopt this mindset, you become a being who is free of limitations.
In time you morph into different timelines, and if you're already listening to my channel, to my podcast, if you follow me on social media, you're probably interested in healing, growing, learning, expanding, and doing something beautiful with your life. You probably want to call into existence the life of your dreams, where you have beautiful relationships, wealth, health, and inner peace. You're probably here to help humanity raise the level of consciousness, and now you're even closer to that reality. All of these energies are pushing you forward into the life that you are meant to live, into your purpose.
You can't control the world, but you can control how it affects you and how you respond or react. You can't control the external world, but you can control your inner world, and your internal world has an impact on the external world.