I’m going to start out by making a radical statement: The beliefs you have about yourself and the world, and the thoughts that you think, create the reality you live in. They quite literally shape the world you see around you, including the circumstances you find yourself in, the relationships you have with other people, your health, your success, and so much more. And by changing your mind and adopting a new set of beliefs and thoughts, you can completely transform all these circumstances and the world at large around you. 

This has proven true time and time again throughout my life, and I believe it so deeply in my core. I had a spiritual awakening when I was seventeen. If you want to hear that story I talk about it in another episode called “The Moment That Led To My Spiritual Awakening” - go check it out.

Just for a moment close your eyes and imagine that you are the picture of health, love, joy, and happiness. You have a special someone in your life who is compassionate and loving and the perfect match for you. You are passionate about your work and have a paycheck that makes you feel comfortable and secure. You’re hitting all the personal and professional milestones important to you. You laugh a lot. You are surrounded by people who cheer you on, love you, and truly want the best for you. You have free time and enough money so you can pursue any hobby that sparks your soul. You hold no grudges against anyone, and you’ve released any emotions or limiting beliefs that were holding you back. You are at peace. You love your reflection in the mirror and feel confident in your own skin. Any time a challenge comes your way, you know exactly what to do to handle it with grace and ease and spin it into something positive that ends up helping you out in the long run. When you look out at the world, you see fairness, harmony, and beauty. Life is good!

Does this sound like a description of your life right now? If it does, that’s amazing and I am so happy for you. If it does not, does it sound like something you want? How about does it sound like something you think you could have? Is there a little voice in the back of your head right now, telling you, That’s impossible, no one can attain all of that, or at least not me? Maybe your mind immediately jumps to all of the ways you are lacking, not worthy, or even suffering.

If it doesn’t sound like your current life or if you’re thinking any of these thoughts, don’t worry—you’re not alone.

Three out of four people report feeling lonely and disconnected, like they are just going through the motions in life and that it’s happening to them and they are not in control. These people report feeling powerless, stressed out, insecure, anxious, lonely, and/or depressed. And they look at others whom life seems to come with ease to and wonder how it is that they seem to get everything they want. Some feel like they’re stuck in a rut while others resolve to the fact that their life is just average and lacks the potential and/or opportunity to be extraordinary. Another 60 percent say they are dissatisfied with their work.

I could go on and on, but the most interesting statistic of all to me is that psychologists estimate 70 to 90 percent of people’s thoughts are negative and repetitive.

My life’s work is about making the correlation between your thoughts and emotions and your current reality and teaching you how to make a shift.

Let me lay it out for you. The Law of Attraction is a universal law that says you will attract into your life whatever you focus on. When you focus your energy and attention on what you want rather than what you don’t want, you will attract that thing to you. 

The key to using the Law of Attraction is emotion. The reason this works is that we have to match the frequency of the thing we want. We can’t create our new life if we’re working at the same frequency of the life we have now.

And the Universe is like the Facebook Algorithm: Whatever you get emotional about and put your attention on, it thinks you’re interested in and sends you more of.

And we are so lucky that we live in the age of information where all of this spiritual knowledge is easily attainable at your fingertips. And I love books and movies like The Secret who taught the masses about the Law of Attraction.

But there’s some fundamental things that all of these other books and films and well-meaning coaches out there are missing. The Law of Attraction doesn’t work unless you implement these five things.

Because if you haven’t done all of the five, you’ll stay stuck… you might get part way there, but ultimately your manifesting will be blocked.

Now the 3 big things that pretty much every person wants to improve in their life are their relationships, their money, and their health. 

You’re not going to get any of these things unless you start working on them collectively and begin to understand how they’re all connected… and that’s what these 5 steps are going to help with. The way to get better health, is the same way you get more money and great relationships. If you want great relationships, you need to have the skillset to be able to get more money and better health. If you want to be able to get more money, you need to learn how to get better health and relationships.

These three things are all connected together. The same system that allows you to get one allows you to get all of them.

That’s what these 5 steps are going to help with.

The five step framework that I teach people is: 

1. Reframe your story
2. Release your repressed emotions
3. Forgiveness
4. Visualize your dream life
5. Change your perspective

These 5 steps are imperative whether you’re trying to manifest wealth and abundance, change your health, or simply get a romantic partner whom you have an amazing connection with. 

Let's dive into the first one. Reframe your story. This is about Changing the way you view the circumstances of your past and your present moment. You need to get out of the victim mentality and stop blaming other people and events for your suffering. Every adversity, every heartbreak in life offers something that you can learn, so this step is about learning to see the lesson in everything and grow from it.

Now more often we focus on the past and the future so we miss the present moment. If your thoughts about the past are ones of anger or other low-vibration emotions, you will bring those emotions into the present and manifest more things that make you feel that way into your life.

Only 5% of your life you are creating what you want. The other 95% of your life is coming from your subconscious programming. When you don’t rewrite that programming it subconsciously controls your life no matter how good your intentions are and how hard you try. You are sabotaging yourself 95% of the day. No matter how much you manifest and write positive mantras, unless you unlearn the conditioning that is keeping you stuck, you’re not going to get what you want.

Number two is Release  repressed emotions.Emotions are energy and can be powerful, and when we push them down, they don’t have anywhere else to go but into our body where they get stuck and become repressed emotions. And this energy doesn’t just disappear. It stays there, blocking the natural flow of energy in our bodies, causing our muscles to tense up, and either turns into pain, disease (dis-ease), or bubbles up to the surface at inappropriate times and in inappropriate ways. You have to release your repressed emotions… or all that anger, heartbreak, frustration, guilt, shame, fear, and anxiety will unconsciously drive your life (and seep into your manifesting!). Now however old you are is close to how many years of repressed emotions you have.

Number three is forgiveness. Forgiveness isn’t for the other person, it’s for you. There’s this great Buddhist quote I love that goes something like “Holding on to anger is like holding on to a hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned.” Now this is this is not about excusing anyone’s behaviors. It is merely reframing your perspective on the perceived wrongdoings of yourself and the people in your life to allow you to forgive and release your anger, your hurt, your resentment, your guilt, and your sadness so you can then heal and flourish and live up to your fullest potential. 

If your lens is one of anger, then that is how you will interpret events around you, how you’ll interact with others, and what you’ll project out into the world, and that anger will eat away at you, causing you harm, possibly eventually in the form of the disease. It is poison, and holding onto poison only causes you harm.

The next step is visualize Your Dream Life. Those of us who are in the personal development space might think this one is obvious but shockingly only 1% of the population writes down their goals. If you’re skiing or white water rafting or anything else and you’re focusing on what you don’t want to hit, you’ll inevitably hit it. Most people focus on what they don’t want instead of what they do. What you focus on becomes your reality.

And the last one is Change Your Perspective. This is the most important one yet because if you can change your mind about who you really are and the nature of reality, then it will send ripple effects through every area of your life. This is the absolute secret to healing, improving, reinventing yourself, and creating lasting change in your life. This is where the study of quantum physics, of NDEs, of past life regressions, of energy work, of meditation all comes in  → if you start to understand that the reality around you is truly malleable and moldable and you really believe you can achieve or have something in your core, then you will create it - you will manifest it in your life.

Now I could talk about this stuff all day because I really geek out about it but I’m running out of time for today. If you want to learn more about it I have a coaching program where I dive deep into each one of these and teach you precise exercises and tactics to heal and grow on all of these different levels. You can head over to https://www.krisashley.net/courses to check it out.

I also talk about it all in my book, which is available to purchase on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. It’s called Change Your Mind To Change Your Reality: How Shifting Your Thinking Can Unlock Your Health, Your Relationships, and Your Peace of Mind. I’d love it if you would read it.